Do your kids think Mom is a Magician?

I love my son who is smart, funny, and has a great personality.  Time management is another issue.  Last night at dinner (6:15), my son tells me he needs a Ben Franklin costume for tomorrow for his Walk Through the American Revolution at school and a dressy outfit (no jeans) for his band concert tomorrow night.  We have no free time in between.  We were headed out the door last night to his Boy Scout meeting, I work all day today while he had school play practice afterschool ending an hour before he needs to be back for the concert.  When did he expect me to buy clothes for him?  We lucked out on the Ben Franklin outfit as that was the easy one due to a wig we bought several years ago when he was Thomas Jefferson in 2nd grade. 

I picked him up from school and he asked me if I went out and bought him dress pants.  Are you kidding?  I didn’t even buy dress pants for him for Christmas as his dark jeans are the only thing dressy he wears.  He still wears shorts to school everyday, so the dark wash jeans are dressy for him.  Am I a bad mom because I didn’t spend the $40 on a pair of pants that he would wear one time for one hour? Unfortunately, he wears a men’s small size and he is one of the biggest kids in the class that he doesn’t have anyone to borrow close from.  I refuse to buy dress pants in the spring because he would grow out of them before he would wear them at Christmas.  I love him and will make sure he looks nice, but new clothes with less than 24 hours notice is not happening here.  Some moms are magical and have the time to make it all happen.  This mom would like to see her son give her a little more notice.

Do you work from home and call in sick?

I have this problem called my conscious.  I work from a home office, but I have the most difficult time calling in sick.  There are days that I feel sick with a cold and if I worked in an office I would call out sick.  But since I work from home, I don’t have anyone to infect (other than my family who gave it to me) and power up the laptop anyways.  I can still check email or search for candidates without speaking to a person. Inevidably I still check my voicemail and have just one more call to make before I can rest.  I continue in that just one more item accomplished attitude for almost all day before I rest.

I never use the 5 sick days I am allotted and really should to get the rest I need to function fully as a mom and full time employee.  There have been days that when I am sick, I go back to bed for an hour unable to sleep and get back up to my computer. I wish I was able to sleep on command.

I know of other associates and managers that when they are sick, they work from home instead of the office. How is this really getting the rest you need to recover and be healthy?  I am sure I am not alone in this dilemna amoungst working from home associates.  Hopefully, I will learn one day to call in sick and be sick for the whole day.

 

 

 

School age boys don’t belong in the women’s bathroom

I took the day off work yesterday and took my family to Disneyland to celebrate my son’s birthday. We had a wonderful day. I find that I have become very annoyed to see boys in the women’s bathrooms. I have seen this on more than one occasion and I am not talking about toddlers or under 5 year olds. These are boys that look to be about 9 or 10. They are old enough to go in the men’s bathroom by themselves and they know the difference. My stand is that if your child goes to grade school, then they can go to the bathroom by themselves.

I remember when my son was 4 and when we were at an Angels baseball game. I tried to take him with me to the restroom, but he refused and ran into the appropriate men’s room to go by himself. He was in there a long time and I could not go in after him. There were plenty of dads and kids that came out of the bathroom that were happy to go back in and check on my child for me. This has happened a few times as I waited outside the door. At four years old he was embarrassed to go into the womens bathroom and knew the difference. Can you imagine the embarrassment of a 9 or 10 year old having to go in the women’s room? Let your sons be independent and confident in themselves.

Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. One time I told my son to go and I would wait for him outside the rest room after I went to mine. After a long time, I sent other dads in to check to see if he was okay. He was not there. Instead he went back to our seats in the upper view section and was waiting for us. Good thing for cell phones that I was able to call my husband in the seats and he was there.

It is time for you mom’s of over 5 year olds to let your kids be independent and use the bathroom by themselves. There is nothing wrong with waiting outside the men’s room for him to come out. Other parents are sympathetic to you and are happy to check on your son for you if it takes too long.

Accept all calls if you are looking for a job

I don’t understand why people feel the need to not accept blocked calls.  I am a recruiter and yes my phone has a blocked number because I work from a home office and recruit for positions in all time zones of the US.  People these days live by their caller ID and don’t even listen to their messages. They just call back the number on the caller ID which means I would get call backs at all hours of the day/night.  I prefer to not to be awakened by a call at 5:00 PST from someone on the East coast.  This does happen because job seekers don’t accept calls from blocked numbers so I have to resort to using my cell phone to call them. Then, they don’t listen to the message of what number to call back and call the Caller ID number at what they think is a reasonable time in their time zone. 

Why are you really not taking calls from blocked numbers?  I have Caller ID and rarely do I get a soliciter with an unknown number.  I do get a lot of soliciter calls daily, but thier numbers are displayed.  If you are looking for a job and have applied to positions online, should you really be screening your calls?  We are in a virtual world now and more and more people/recruiters work from a home office.

Does it make sense to apply to positions, then screen your calls out because someone has a blocked number?  Do you ever wonder how many calls you miss because you are not available?